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A threesome commonly refers to three people engaging in sexual activity together, although it can technically be used to refer to any set of three things. Although threesomes may take place in the context of polyamory or a ménage à trois, they are not necessary elements of these relationships, and may occur outside of relationships as well.

Threesomes are common elements of sexual fantasy, and are commonly depicted in pornography. They are a type of group sex, but as only three people are involved, may more frequently occur in more private, non-anonymous settings than orgies.


The Magic Number
It’s not just in the bedroom that the number three works wonders.

Wishes
Lucky sumbitches who rub a genie’s lamp get three whole wishes. No wishing for more wishes, sadly, but what about wishing for more genies?

The Matrix
Neo, Morpheus and Trinity did some serious ass-kicking in three movies. While the flicks got progressively longer, The Matrix trilogy fulfilled all our geeky wet-dreams. What we missed: Monica Bellucci topless.

Fairy Tales
Goldilocks met three bears; three little kittens lost their mittens; and it took a third
little pig to realise a brick house wouldn’t blow down. Pigs: Delicious and smart.

Witchcraft
The Wiccan “Rule of Three” states that whatever energy you put into the world will come back to you threefold. So wish really hard for a threesome, and then get ready for a ninesome. Yea-ah!

Old Wives’ Tales
Bad things happen in threes. See: Kim Jong-il’s three sons; the plane crash that killed Buddy Holly, the Big Bopper, and Ritchie La Bamba.



Become A Triple Threat
The five rules of threesomes.

1. Hit The Web
A sure way to find chicks who’re ready to hop into bed with you and your lady: Scoping out the “bisexual” profiles on adultfriendfinder.com for freaky beauties. (That’s “bi,” not “trans”…It’s a mistake you’ll never make twice.)

2. Be Confident
Women want to feel like the man will guide them through a threesome, especially if it’s their first time. If you’re indecisive about things like who should host the action, she’ll assume you’re hesitant in bed too.

3. Heel Your Horndog
Don’t act too pumped that you’re bedding two women. Yelling, “Who wants the boom stick first?” will make you look like a loser. Instead, pretend these are a normal occurrence. While at it, pretend you’re rich, too!

4. Divide and Conquer
Rather than directing both girls to your Johnson, give each of them lots of individual attention. They’ll join forces on you, or each other on their own once they feel relaxed and turned on.


5. Make It About Her
When broaching the topic with your girlfriend, don’t tell her how much you want to bang two chicks. Tell her how much you would want to see her being pleasured.


There's a whole lot of information on how to arrange a threesome, but there's very little about what you should do once you're in one.

Threesomes are not like regular sex they require both imagination and sensitivity. If you plan on having a threesome, you need to go into the situation with some idea of what you're going to be doing, you need some threesome rules.

Understanding these basic threesome rules will help you avoid some common mistakes that typically prevent you from getting the most out of your ménage à trois. There are various types of threesomes that you can enjoy, but we're betting that you're hoping for the type with two women, one of whom is likely your bisexual or bi-curious girlfriend or wife. What follows are the basic threesome rules on how to handle such a delectable, and potentially sticky, sexual situation.

The people involved in a threesome may have any combination of gender and sexual orientation, and be engaging in any number of acts with one or both of the other participants, such as sexual intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, or mutual masturbation.
For a partial list of sexual acts and positions that involve all participants, see sex positions with three participants.
One or more of the participants may be engaging in autoerotic sexual activity, such as masturbation, possibly without physical contact with the other two participants. It is a matter of subjective definition whether participation of a third person without physical contact constitutes a threesome. This may relate to fetishes such as voyeurism or cuckolding.


Threesome is not a relationship
Lie around with both women in post-coital bliss. However, remember it's not a relationship. This means that the third person likely shouldn't sleep over. It may seem like a great idea in the moment, but prolonging a threesome is a recipe for total disaster.

Be reassuring to your girlfriend or wife. You've had fun, but it's only pleasure and experimentation. Tell her that she turns you on, that seeing her being pleasured by another woman aroused you, and that while you enjoyed yourself, there's no one for you but her. She's your primary concern, so if you let her know it, you may well have more threesome adventures in the future.

Threesome Stories

Tanya, 23, knew she would have a threesome someday—she just didn’t know when. “I’m  pretty experimental,” she says. “I wanted to fool around with another woman but didn’t know how to go about it. I thought having a guy there would make it easier, because it’d be like putting on a show rather than some intense lesbian experience.”

When, over drinks one night, a female friend described a threesome she’d had,

Tanya knew she’d found her opportunity. “Late at night we ended up at a guy friend’s place with a small group of people, and she and I started getting touchy-feely on the couch, stroking each other’s hair,” Tanya says. “That’s when the guy kicked his buddies out and turned around to find us  undressing each other. He joined in, and the three of us were kissing and groping each other like crazy. It was even better than I’d expected.”

We know  that for us a threesome may be the holy grail of sexual encounters, but you aren’t the only one dying to get another body in the bedroom. Maybe it’s the increasing prevalence of girl-on-girl action in pop  culture (see and clap: Cheerleaders Brittany and Santana lip-locking on Glee, or Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis’ make-out session in Black Swan). Or maybe more women, like Tanya, are starting to make sexual “bucket lists” full of superhot fantasies they plan  to tick off one by one. Whatever the reason, girls are more open than ever to the erotic joys of threesomes.
But moving to a three-party system is rarely complication-free. Love triangles—even ones that last only a few hours—can be hotbeds of jealousy, awkwardness, and confusion. That’s why, to pull off a threesome successfully, you’ve got to know the most important rules.


The Naughtiest Number
For us men, the appeal of a threesome is a no-brainer: If two boobs are awesome, the thought of four at once is enough to give your erection an erection. For women the allure might not be so obvious. After all, how many girls would jump at the chance to see their guy pleasuring someone else?
More than you’d think. Surprisingly, some say the idea of helping a guy fulfil his ultimate fantasy is as titillating to them as it is to you. “Whenever we watched porn my boyfriend would comment on the threesomes,” says Simi, 27. “When I finally revealed that it was something I’d be into, I’d never seen a bigger smile on his face.” And it’s not just Simi’s boyfriend who doubles his pleasure when they bring another girl into the bedroom. “I think it’s so hot when another girl and I go down on him at the same time,” she says. “He gets this crazed look in his eye—you can tell it turns him on more than anything else.” For other women the idea of getting attention from two people at once is its own incentive. Tara, 34, says that the fantasies she got off on the most when flicking her bean involved having multiple partners at once. She finally decided she had to act on the urge and so, on the advice of a threesome-experienced friend, changed her profile
on Facebook to “interested in men and women.” Soon she was at a couple’s place, having a six-hour ménage à trois.

“There are so many more things you can do in a threesome than in regular sex,” she says. “The other woman can have sex with the guy while you watch the expressions on her face—and then he can become the spectator while you go down on her, until he’s so turned on he’s ready to go again. My first one was so hot I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to go back to one-on-one sex afterward.” There’s even a chance that women are better equipped to enjoy threesomes than men, biologically speaking, according to Deborah Anapol, PhD, author of Polyamory in the 21st Century: “Women are great multitaskers, excellent communicators, and have a ton of sexual endurance”—the combination of which, she says, adds up to sexual dynamite when a third partner joins the action.


Three is A Crowd - True?
Of course, a ménage à trois can come with its fair share of complications. Arguably the most lethal enemy of the threesome is jealousy—a natural risk whenever three people get together, especially if two of them are partners in a committed relationship. “The first time I heard my boyfriend tell another woman how hot she was—while having sex with her—I was pretty upset,” says Sonya, 25. “I came up behind him and started kissing his neck to physically insert myself into the action. We talked about it later, and now we’ve a special tap that I’ll do if I don’t like the way things are going.  That way the third person doesn’t even notice.”

Latika, 27, put her foot down when her husband asked if they could have sex with one of his exes.
“She was still hung up on him, and it was important to me that there be no emotional attachment,” she says. Still, Latika preferred to experiment with friends—despite how sticky that could become—since it seemed safer than picking someone up at a bar. Eventually, the plan backfired. “Even though my husband and I were clear with this one woman and said we just wanted to have fun, it was challenging because we saw her a lot,” she says. “She began pursuing a more serious relationship with us, calling all the time and even showing up outside our house at strange hours. It got so bad we had to threaten her seriously.”

At least Latika and her husband were united in the experience. Worst-case scenario,
a threesome can tear a couple apart. “At my boyfriend’s suggestion, we started hooking up regularly with one of his co-workers,” says Maya, 30, “and she’d often come over to spend time with us outside of the sex. Then, just after we moved into a new place and signed a lease, he broke up with me. I didn’t realise why until our threesome buddy moved in a few weeks later. Now they’re engaged. I will not be inviting a third person into my next relationship, never, hell no.”


Give It A Try
So how can you pursue a threesome while avoiding the messy side effects? First off, according to Simi, it’s essential to gauge her interest in a casual way. “When my boyfriend wanted to see if I was up for a threesome, he mentioned that he’d done it with a past girlfriend—and then let it go,” says Simi. “He never pressured me; he just planted the seed. That made me want to do it even more.” Bringing it up constantly will only make you look obsessed—which will make her think you’re desperate to sleep with someone new. And even if that’s true, it’s not going to get you what you want. If you haven’t had any previous experience you can mention, Anapol recommends a casual remark about a movie or TV scene, along the lines of: “I didn’t realise there was a threesome  scene in Wild Things. I definitely would have watched with you if I’d known that.” Once you’ve started a dialogue, you’ll know whether she’s open to the idea. But even if she is, your work isn’t done. To avoid hurt feelings or an encounter derailed by miscommunication, it’s essential to set ground rules—who can do what with whom—before any clothes come off. “Everyone should be clear about what’s cool and what’s off-limits,” Tara says. “I hook up with this one couple regularly, and once the guy had full sex with me while the girl stepped out of the room. I assumed she’d be OK with it, but when I mentioned it later, she was shocked—and pretty upset.”

Anapol recommends that all three people sit down first and agree what they want from the experience. “What are their boundaries?” she says. “Is there anything they definitely don’t want to do, anything they’re worried about?” Sure, it might be a buzz-kill if your girlfriend says you can’t have sex with the other woman. But it’s probably less of a buzz-kill than watching her storm out of the room crying mid-ménage. The bottom line: Agreeing to play by her rules will make her feel comfortable and erase any lingering doubts she might have. And maybe the next time she’ll make all your dreams come true.

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